In modern days, the custom of mourning has ceased to be strict and obligatory after the death of a relative. The death of a dear person among believers is accompanied by Christian traditions - prayers for the soul of the deceased and the holding of memorial days. Atheists, on the other hand, sad events result in a psychological overcoming of feelings of grief and a desire to return to ordinary life as soon as possible.
In fact, mourning is a system of rules and prohibitions that family members and relatives of the deceased must observe. The duration of mourning can vary: 3 days, 9 days, 40 days, 6 months, a year, several years, and even lifelong mourning. This period depends on the degree of closeness of the person to the deceased. The strictest and longest mourning is observed in relation to a husband or wife, children and parents.
Black is considered a mourning color. However, today black has already lost its sad purpose. Stylists have long introduced it into fashion because of the effect of visually slimming. However, emphasizing the recent death of a loved one in appearance with any dark-colored wardrobe item or item is very important for restoring psychological balance. As a rule, women wear mourning hats or headscarves and long dresses, men wear black shirts.
According to folk tradition, the soul of the deceased is close to family and home for up to 40 days. This understanding of death has left an imprint on the nature of mourning. Even if relatives did not experience strong grief, they should lead a humble lifestyle, show sorrow in everything, pray intensely, limit themselves in contact with other people, and avoid any manifestations of joy and happiness. In Russia, it was forbidden to sing, eat sweet dishes, drink wine and go on festivities.
Fasting during the period of mourning is observed not only among Christians, but also in many other religions. In addition, at the memorial meal, as a rule, only simple, traditional food is allowed, including special memorial dishes: jelly, cabbage soup or ukha, pancakes and kutia.
True believers and grieving souls Orthodox Christians after the death of a relative should most of all strive not for external observance of mourning customs, but for internal humility, staying in fervent prayer for the deceased person. If about the repose of the soul. If the deceased was not baptized, only home prayer is permissible. In memory of the deceased, good deeds should be performed, alms should be given to all those who ask.