When in trouble, some people "shout" about it, diligently attract the attention of others. Others close and "drown" in loneliness, perceiving any attempt at external interference with hostility. Both can be helped by acting wisely and delicately.
Instructions
Step 1
Feed the person in need and give what is needed. In a state of psychological decline, a person feels vulnerable. Therefore, the good intentions of others to suggest something are perceived negatively. In this state, the unfortunate person is like a grinning puppy, which does not allow him to approach and does not give the opportunity to release his paw that has got into the gap. By inviting a person to the table, you help him to relax. Food and clothing are the simplest things a neighbor needs to feel protected. Leave the didactic conversations with you; instead, give the needy what is needed. You can touch him to the core, even if the outwardly unfortunate person does not show it. It is important for a person to know that someone cares about him.
Step 2
Tell us about something sincere. While he is eating your bread, remember how you fed the pigeons with seeds. Tell us how you saved money to buy a gift for your mom. On the one hand, this will distract the interlocutor from sad thoughts. On the other hand, his soul will be drawn to you, as an understanding person.
Step 3
Ask how your neighbor's business is. Ask this question casually. Do not try to show that the person has experiences written on his face. If he wants, at this moment he will speak out. Not everyone needs confession to strangers. For some it is enough that they have been given attention. After parting with you, the acquaintance will feel relief and find the strength to fight.
Step 4
Listen to the interlocutor. If the person starts to speak, do not engage in conversation. Become a "big ear". Who can express the inner state in words, he knows the way out of the situation. Therefore, advice is not useful. Your task is to help your neighbor say what is painful. The rest will be superfluous. Be silent to provide help.
Step 5
Give the person hope. When your interlocutor's gaze brightens, tell him that he will certainly solve the problem. It is important for him to understand that someone believes in him. Even if a specific decision is not ripe, intuitively he will feel that he is on the right path. Believe in the person and give him great joy. He will raise his head and find the strength to win.
