"Eyes are the mirror of the soul!" - a very precise, figurative expression. Therefore, it would seem, there can be no doubts: when meeting and talking, one must look directly into each other's eyes. But not everything is so simple!
From time immemorial, a direct look in the eyes played a very definite role: it symbolized aggression, a willingness to measure strength. And even among animals, for example, such a look is akin to an immediate challenge to a duel. Therefore, it is worth thinking carefully before staring into the eyes of the interlocutor with an unblinking gaze. After all, this can be regarded as rudeness, bad manners. In addition, such a look can simply confuse a delicate, impressionable person, make him feel insecure, constrained, in a word, cause him obvious discomfort. On the other hand, when a person stubbornly avoids looking into the eyes of the interlocutor, this may be an indicator of his duplicity, a desire to hide something, to mislead. "He hides his eyes, which means he wants to deceive!" - this rule has also been known for a long time. How to be? Your behavior should depend on many factors: who your interlocutor is, how important the relationship with him is to you, what is the nature of your meeting, conversation, etc. For example, you are talking to a business partner, a casual train neighbor, an employee in a government agency, a client who has contacted your firm. In a word, your communication, although polite, is clearly not friendly, implies a certain restraint. In this case, you better look at his face, while trying to avoid looking directly into his eyes. That is, of course, you can meet his gaze, but literally for a second or two and then again turn your eyes a little to the side. By doing this, you will demonstrate attention, respect for the person and not put him in an awkward position. If you are talking to a person you know well, and your conversation is proceeding in a warm, benevolent (friendly) atmosphere, you can look at a wider area, not limited to just the face, but also grabbing the neck and upper chest. This will give your conversation an even more relaxed, informal character. Well, if you are communicating with a person of the opposite sex who attracts you very much (not only in the spiritual, but also in the intimate sense of the word), then you can let your gaze, as if by chance, slide literally all over his body. Of course, try not to demonstrate this too clearly, especially if the meeting is taking place in a crowded place. Remember the wise rule: "Everything is good in moderation", do not compromise either yourself or your interlocutor.
