Caring for the feelings of others, some people turn into reliable helpers. But, while helping others, they forget about their own affairs and interests. You need to learn to say “no” politely in order to keep your nerves and not ruin your relationships with friends.
Instructions
Step 1
Remember how often you were refused, how many times you did something through force that you did not want. Many people start using other people just by realizing their reliability. Tune in to these thoughts and understand that you do not owe anyone and can say “no” with a clear conscience. Realize that by refusing people you are doing better for yourself.
Step 2
Refuse politely but firmly. There should be no apologetic, guilty or ingratiating notes in intonation. Maintain confidence in your voice so that the other person cannot grasp your weakness. To smooth over the hardness, accompany the rejection with a soft smile.
Step 3
Give reasons for your refusal. Sometimes the simple word “no” is not enough to convince the persistent interlocutor. Add a reason why you won't be able to accommodate him. Do not make excuses, speak calmly, simply explaining your busyness to the person.
Step 4
Express your lack of confidence in your abilities. If you are asked to do additional work or, for example, help with a repair, tell them that you will not be able to do it. Pretend that you are poorly versed in such things, are afraid to make a mistake, and it takes too long to learn.
Step 5
Say what you think and then refuse. If you find it difficult to say “no” to a person in the face, pretend that you are hesitant and need time to think. After a while, but not too late, call and tell him that you will not be able to help him.
Step 6
Suggest an alternative. Try to think of someone else who can help your friend solve his problem. Invite the other person to contact another person who is better versed in the right issues or is not so busy in business.
Step 7
Do not fall for flattery and attempts to manipulate you. Compliments about your abilities and skills from the asker are just a way to get you to do what they want. Remember this, thank you for the nice words, but stay with your decision. The other person may try to push you to pity, be annoyed, or take offense by trying to manipulate you, but don't give up and be firm.
