Being able to say “no” politely, but unambiguously, can be very useful in life. If you refuse decisively enough, you can get into a situation where someone imposes their will on you. By formulating a refusal unambiguously, but impolitely, you risk offending someone who does not deserve it at all. The ability to give a correct negative answer is a social skill, and educated people are fluent in it.
Instructions
Step 1
If possible, do not give a refusal right away, but take time to think. When you are invited to an event, forgiven to provide assistance at a certain time, tell them that you should check with your diary. Later, refer to being busy and refuse, but do not delay the answer, as you can let the other person down, instill in him vain hopes, make him count on you. It is also correct to refuse a personal invitation during a personal meeting, but if you agree with your interlocutor that you will give him an answer by e-mail, then it is permissible to write a letter of apology and refusal.
Step 2
Choose your words carefully, do not use "reduced" vocabulary. Don't say “I don’t want”, rather say “I don’t find it possible”, not “I will not,” but “I don’t think this is acceptable,” use more elaborate vocabulary than the one you use every day. This will make it clear to the person that for you refusal to him is not an ordinary event, and you try not to hurt his feelings.
Step 3
Try to state the reason for the refusal, if possible, suggest alternatives. Whenever possible, accompany the refusal with compliments, such as when the hostess persuades you to try her concoction.
Step 4
Some find it particularly difficult to get rejected by intimate relationships. Saying "no" to the person who asked you out, tell them that you are not interested in a relationship with anyone at the moment, but appreciate their attention.
Step 5
If you are asked to help someone in a work situation, to help with documents, to take on a project, to fulfill someone else's job responsibilities, try the magic phrase: “I'm not sure I can help you with this. Why don't you turn to X with this question? X can mean both your immediate supervisor and a person whose duties include the kind of assistance that is requested from you.
Step 6
Remember that you have the right to deny someone something and the one who asks for something also knows about it, as well as you. Perhaps he is tuned in to your refusal and simply does not want to lose even the smallest chance. You should not suffer because you were forced to say no to someone, because neither the lives of people nor the fate of nations depended on your consent.
Step 7
Learn to separate questions and requests from manipulation. When they pressure you, accuse you, raise your voice, when they behave inappropriately and impolitely with you, you have the right to simply say no, turn around and leave.
