Most people have to deal with betrayal in their lives. The unpleasant feeling of deception does not leave for a long time, especially if a loved one turns out to be a traitor. In order not to get lost, going through this difficult stage of life, it is necessary to better understand what to do if you are betrayed.
Deception and betrayal: what's the difference
A betrayal is a violation of fidelity and an oath once given in their right mind. Deception and betrayal separately have different connotations. It is not so important how these concepts of the encyclopedia are interpreted, it is much more important to understand these words in life.
If you are sold a low-quality product or someone from your acquaintances tells a fictional story, then such actions cannot be called betrayal. Rather, it is a simple deception, in the second case it is even more of a joke.
Betrayal has dire consequences. The fact is that a person who is not mentally close to you cannot commit betrayal, since his deception will not greatly hurt your heart.
Deceived expectations
Betrayal is often confused with disappointed hopes. The fact is that often a situation occurs when one person expects from another to commit some specific act, and he does not even know about it. As a result, the expectations of the first are deceived, and he pathetically declares his friend a traitor. Before declaring betrayal so loudly, it is worth analyzing the situation. Perhaps this is your personal selfishness, and not a friend's misconduct.
The most famous betrayal
A famous example from world history can well demonstrate an example of real betrayal. And it happened in ancient Rome. Marcus Junius Brutus, a Roman senator, has always been considered a loyal friend and ally of Julius Caesar. But out of a desire to seize power, the senators staged a conspiracy, led by Brutus. As a result, Caesar died, struck by the sword of his "friend".
This story is reflected in the play by Shakespeare. An interesting fact is that the phrase "And you, Brutus?" became winged after staging the work on stage. Whether Caesar actually pronounced it is unknown.
Is it worth revenge
In religion, betrayal is interpreted as the fall. But do not forget that the thirst for revenge is in no way inferior to betrayal and deception in this sense. Having received a "knife in the back" from a loved one, it is very difficult to rehabilitate. It is only natural that you will not want to communicate with the abuser anymore. That you will swear never to trust anyone again. It is common for any person to go into despair and speak nonsense in a fit of anger.
But try to be patient. Just a few days, and you will feel how thoughts in your head begin to prevail over feelings. By analyzing the event that happened, you will find the clue that will help you forgive. The question of forgiveness was raised in the works of Leo Tolstoy. Especially in Anna Karenina. An example of this story suggests that a person who has managed to throw the resentment out of his heart will certainly be happy. Strong people are always happy.
How to recognize a traitor
Due to the fact that betrayal brings a lot of pain, the question arises of how you can save your life from people who can betray you. It is difficult to answer this question. And if someone knew the answer to it, then the world has long been divided into two halves: traitors and the happy. The fact is that not even every person expects from himself that he can hurt someone close to him. More often the betrayal occurs unconsciously, and even more often the "victim" itself pushes to commit this act.
Therefore, firstly, you need to learn to understand people and not open the doors to your inner world to everyone you meet. Secondly, to treat your loved ones with care and not to hurt other people's hearts.
