As a child, Keith Ferrazzi, author of Never Eat Alone, wore golf clubs on the golf course. He watched rich people help each other. They attach young people to practice in each other's best firms, disinterestedly provide other services. The boy learned that among these people it is natural to ask for help. Each of them has a large circle of acquaintances who can be contacted. Therefore, they quickly solve problems in the best possible way. Asking for help, accepting help and giving it is natural for successful people.
Instructions
Step 1
Formulate the problem. It is best to do this in writing, if time permits. Because a clear formulation can open up a sudden decision and no help is needed.
Step 2
Make a list of solutions. There should always be alternatives. Don't rely on others. Develop the ability to think, analyze and find solutions. Train yourself to ask for help only after you have done the necessary work. People will be more willing to help those who are not lazy and do not seek to "sit on their necks", so that they do everything instead of him.
Step 3
Think about how to reward your helper. Of course, people will help unselfishly. And when they need help, you will provide it. Now we are not talking about immediately compensating a person for all his efforts. However, you can express your gratitude and somehow ease the burden on the helper. For example, take care to feed the person. Or take him home. These little things will highlight your concern.
Step 4
Ask for help directly. Don't hint when describing the hardships of life. If you need something, be direct about it. And the person will not suffer inside himself, whether he did the right thing without offering help. After all, a person can be busy, he has his own plans, he is in a hurry somewhere. When you ask directly, the person understands that your situation is really serious, and not just that you share your feelings.
