Unspoken rules dictate that the initiative in a relationship should come from a man. This also applies to serious issues, such as a marriage proposal, and more everyday ones, for example, an invitation to a cup of coffee. But men are now not proactive and often do not dare to take the first step.
There are often such situations when your friend, whom you sympathize with, does not take a single step towards rapprochement. In this case, you will have to take the initiative into your own hands. The easiest way to get to know the object of your attention better is to invite him over for a cup of coffee. But you need to do this as unobtrusively as possible, because you do not know the reasons why he refuses your attention.
Coffee in gratitude
The most popular and effective method is to invite a friend for coffee in gratitude for a service. But this method is only suitable if you communicate regularly.
Think of a problem for yourself that only your friend can solve. Ask him to help you with work (if your object is a colleague), to look at the lock on the front door or on the car (if you have one), to rid your computer of viruses, or to install new software.
If your friend has little initiative, then you will have to ask, because without help you will not be able to cope. Well, in gratitude, boldly (even persistently) invite him for a cup of coffee, even in the nearest cafe, and not to your home. What happens next depends only on you and your enterprise.
Pretend date
Writers and directors of romantic films are very fond of this method. But in real life, he is quite capable of helping.
Ask your friend to go to a cafe with you to meet with classmates or business partners to play the role of your boyfriend. If there is a share of adventurism in his character, then he will certainly agree to help you. And, playing with feelings, it is easy to transfer them into reality.
Even if you do not have any appointments, you can always ask friends or relatives with whom your "object" is not familiar for help. And you can not ask anyone, but pretend that they called you and canceled the meeting, and since you are in a cafe, it's a sin not to drink a cup of coffee.
Directly invite for coffee
This method is the most sincere and most effective. Just walk up to your friend and invite him over for coffee. If he is well brought up, he will not be able to refuse, and you will make an indelible impression with your sincerity.
These are just three ways to invite a man you know for coffee. In fact, women's ingenuity knows no bounds. But, regardless of the outcome of the meeting, only a man can appoint the second. Otherwise, you may be considered ill-mannered and intrusive.
