Raising children in Japan is very different from raising children in Russia. There it is impossible to imagine those phrases that are often heard on domestic playgrounds: "you are a bad boy", "I will punish you", etc. Even if a small Japanese child fights with his mother or scribbles with a felt-tip pen on the store door, there will be no severe reprimands or punishments.
The main task of Japanese education
In Japan, a baby up to 5-6 years old is the "king", everything is allowed to him. But after this age, he goes through the stage of "slave". From 5 to 15 years old, mandatory norms of social behavior and other rules that must be observed are laid in it. After 15 years, a teenager is already considered an adult, obeying the rules and clearly knowing his responsibilities.
The main task of Japanese upbringing is to raise a person who will work harmoniously in a team. It is absolutely essential for existence in Japanese society. After 5 years, children are in a rigid system of rules that explain how to act in certain life situations. However, the upbringing of such a group consciousness leads to the fact that grown-up children do not know how to think independently.
The desire to comply with uniform standards is so deeply rooted in the minds of children that when one of them has his own opinion, he becomes the object of ridicule, contempt and hatred. Today this phenomenon called "ijime" has spread to Japanese schools. An unconventional student who is somehow different from others is harassed, he is also periodically beaten. For Japanese children and adolescents, the worst punishment is to be outside the group, outside the team.
Japanese ikuji parenting system
The main method of raising children in Japan is "not individualism, but cooperation." This approach is used to guide the child on the right path. This upbringing reflects the uniqueness of the culture of the Land of the Rising Sun. Japan's modern culture is rooted in a rural community where people had to help each other to survive. Such upbringing is the opposite of the Western, especially the American, where they emphasize the development of individuality, creativity, self-confidence.
In Japan, all children are welcome. This is due to the fact that a woman can count on a certain position in society only as a mother. For a man not to acquire an heir is considered a great misfortune. That is why the birth of a child in a Japanese family is not just a planned event, but a long-awaited miracle.
In Japan, mom is called "anae". The verb derived from this word can be translated as "patronize", "pamper". Mom is engaged in upbringing, it has been customary in Japan for centuries. Until the baby is 3 years old, the woman looks after him and does not go to work. In Japan, children are rarely left in the care of grandparents.
The child is with his mother all the time. Whatever she does, the baby is always behind her back or at her chest. When the baby begins to walk, he, too, is under supervision all the time. Mom follows her child everywhere, organizes games for him and often takes part in them herself. She does not forbid the baby anything, he hears only warnings: bad, dangerous, dirty. However, if the child is burned or hurt, the mother considers herself to be guilty.
On weekends, the father also takes care of raising the child. In the Land of the Rising Sun, it is customary to spend holidays with your family. Dads take part in the walk when the whole family gets out to the park or nature. In amusement parks, you can see many married couples where the father carries the kids in his arms.
A Japanese child learns to do everything like his parents, or even better than them. Mom and Dad teach the baby to imitate their behavior. In addition, parents support the child in his endeavors and successes.
In kindergartens in Japan and in families, methods are used to develop self-control in children. For this, various special techniques are used, for example, "weakening the teacher's control", as well as "delegating the authority to supervise the behavior." In America and Europe, they treat such situations as weakening the power of the parents.
The main task of a kindergarten in Japan is precisely raising a baby, not education. The fact is that in later life the child will need to constantly be in a group and he needs this skill. Children learn to analyze conflicts that have arisen in games.
Also, Japanese children are taught to avoid rivalry, since in such situations, the victory of one leads to the loss of face of the other. In the opinion of the people of Japan, the best solution to conflicts is compromise. According to the ancient constitution of this country, the main dignity of a citizen is the ability to avoid contradictions.
The approach of the Japanese to raising children is very peculiar, because it is a whole philosophy that is aimed at perseverance, borrowing, the spirit of collectivism. Many are sure that thanks to all this, the Land of the Rising Sun was able to achieve significant success in a short time and take a leading place among developed countries.
