Everyone who was present in the audience at lectures or presentations observed that the lecturer, especially if he had little experience, suddenly began to pronounce something like “somehow”, “therefore,” and other words-parasites. The listeners immediately feel that it is difficult for the lecturer or interlocutor to speak. It may seem that the speaker does not have enough knowledge on the issue under discussion or has no experience of communicating with others.
Causes of the appearance of words-parasites
In everyday life, the appearance of these words seems meaningless. However, as psychologists explain, the appearance of parasitic words gives the speaker or interlocutor an opportunity to collect his thoughts. Without these words, he would have to constantly pause to collect his thoughts or ponder the answer to the question asked.
The main reason for the appearance of parasitic words is excitement, nervousness that gripped the speaker in the presence of a large audience or a boss. Also among the reasons for the appearance of words-parasites can be noted the inability to control oneself during the discussion of acute problems and lack of awareness of the topic being discussed.
Ways to deal with this bad habit
1. Learn to control yourself. Before starting to cover any issue, you need to calm down by drinking a glass of water.
2. When you cannot cope with anxiety, you need to speak not too quickly, but measuredly. But at the same time, speech should not resemble slow-motion playback of an audio track. It is necessary to choose such a rate of speech that would be convenient for both the speaker and the listeners.
3. It is necessary to try not to take part in the discussion of an issue or topic that is unknown to the lecturer.
4. The fourth method can be called the so-called "play method". He is liked by all parties to the contract (when it comes to children). A person who utters the word parasite in a conversation is fined in the form of sweets or small coins, which he puts in a container, which are then given to colleagues for tea.
All these methods allow a person to effectively fight the glory-parasites.
