The entire life of most people on our planet passes in constant communication with each other. Relations with society also determine our success: will you be able to find a common language with someone who can become your partner or client, will you be able to convey to society what you actually offer. It is obvious that the success of literally any activity, the decision to hire, the presence of friends, etc., depends on communication skills.
But most people have certain problems, and therefore strive to develop sociability, realizing that the quality of their life largely depends on it. There are various reasons for this:
- The presence of speech impediments binds many people, which makes others think that they are uncommunicative.
- Low social status, as well as lack of self-confidence (the reasons for this are the topic of a completely different conversation), leads to difficulties in communicating with people who have a high position in society. An example is hiring, when it is necessary to establish contact with the head of a company or a special HR department, and such people, as a rule, are confident in themselves, which confuses uncommunicative, insecure job seekers.
- A variety of complexes, the origin of which parents miss, and as adults, we just sometimes do not know how to deal with them. For example, those who today young people call "nerds" have problems - they are actually smart people, but completely not adapted to life in society, since in the first place they, as a rule, have science and other interests, and not communication … But this is just one example - there are many complexes, and getting rid of them is often possible only with the help of a psychologist.
How to develop communication skills
To develop communication skills, it is necessary to find the cause of communication problems. The best way out is to contact a psychologist, perhaps, undergo special trainings, where, together with people who have similar problems, you can overcome them.
But turning to a psychologist seems inaccessible to many either for financial reasons, or because of mistrust and fear of admitting the existing problems. Therefore, people often resort to other methods of acquiring communication skills:
- Reading specialized books helps some people understand why they are afraid of communication and how to fix it.
- A little effort to start communicating sometimes gives an impetus to the development of new abilities and communication skills in general. As part of this method, you can try to communicate with people who do not mind accepting you into their company. But often, to stimulate the development of sociability, it is enough to speak with a random fellow traveler or in a store with someone, in order, for example, to decide or help with the choice of a product.
- Communication via the Internet should be avoided - today this opportunity has become the reason for the loss of live communication skills on the part of many young people. The Internet allows you to hide flaws behind words and edited photos (the truth of which may also arise in doubt), here it is enough to turn off the computer to simply end the conversation. It's easy to ignore people you don't like or who don't like you, and they talk about it directly. Many people liked the specifics of the Internet environment, but took away their last skills of live communication. Despite the fact that even business is being reborn and more and more companies are virtual, while offering real goods and services for real money, one still cannot do without communication skills in other spheres of life.
- Developing your personal abilities, achieving new success is a reason to strengthen your self-confidence, increase self-esteem. But it is precisely these factors that often determine the ability to communicate. Try to talk even with a stranger, and you will realize that your fears are unfounded.
Of course, there are many ways to overcome the barrier. And the choice depends on your character, on the reason for isolation or the occurrence of certain difficulties in communication.
