Compliments are loved by everyone. Even those who, having heard them addressed to them, say: “What are you talking about! Not worth it, right! Complimenting competently, while achieving the expected response, is an art, and a science, and psychology, and much more. You can learn this lesson and develop this skill all your life. However, the sooner you learn the basics of this science, the easier it will be in the future.
Instructions
Step 1
Honesty. It is honesty and truthfulness that distinguishes a compliment from approval and flattery. Only a slight (quite a bit) exaggeration of those qualities that the interlocutor wants to note in a particular person (for example, a man in a woman) is acceptable. By the way, maybe he is not going to embellish, but really thinks so …
Step 2
Depth. A skillfully made compliment gives you the opportunity to speculate in the right direction. For example, it is enough to tell the girl “What a beautiful dress you are wearing”, as she will instantly finish painting the picture. If a guy noted a dress, a girl thinks out, it means that he appreciated her impeccable taste, her figure, and her image as a whole. The favor is assured.
Step 3
Laconicism. The compliment should be precise and concise. One and only thought is permissible in it (in extreme cases, two). If you begin to praise at once the appearance, and the mind, and the cordiality, and the nobility, the words "blur" and lose all meaning. It will be an ode, not a compliment.
Step 4
Accuracy. When voicing a compliment, ambiguity is unacceptable. For example, you cannot say, “You are so pretty! Even fullness does not spoil you. Be sure, the girl will perceive only the second part of the phrase, and the first one may be considered a mockery in the light of the second.
Step 5
Empathy. This is the name of the ability to mentally take the place of another. If you want to compliment a person, imagine that you are him, and that you would like to hear about yourself in his place. So you will understand as clearly as possible what is better to note - luck in amorous affairs or professionalism, academic success or achievements of children.
Step 6
Witnesses. A compliment made in front of witnesses takes on more significance than a compliment spoken in private. This is how a person is arranged - he craves social recognition and approval of his qualities. If your successful compliment sounded "in public", you should know that you will be benefited or rewarded (with a bonus, a kiss, a grateful look, a promotion, depending on the situation).
Step 7
Individuality. In other words, it is a personification, a specific focus. It is not enough to say “How beautiful you are”, it is necessary to highlight something in appearance, in character, in the inner world of the interlocutor, which he will perceive as something peculiar only to him (“How beautiful are your hair!” Or “What are your extraordinary eyes! ).
