A correctly spoken compliment is a gift for a person. With its help, you can highlight the best aspects of it, praise, and also express your gratitude. There are many ways to give compliments, but there are some rules to follow.
Instructions
Step 1
If you want to compliment a person, look them in the eyes, do not speak casually, focus on your words and be specific. Your interlocutor should understand what you want to say to him. Otherwise, your words will sound insincere, the person will not believe you, you will not get the desired result. For example, if you want to emphasize a person's outer beauty, do not limit yourself to words about attractiveness or beauty. Tell me what you associate them with, for example, his clothes, hair, makeup, etc.
Step 2
Make sure that your compliment is appropriate in a specific situation, it must be said at the right time and in the right place. If you say a compliment at the wrong time and in the wrong setting, it can offend the person, at best he will not appreciate it. For example, if you want to compliment him for his work that he has done for other people, try to compliment him in their environment so that the person feels that his work is truly appreciated.
Step 3
A common mistake is to include a mention of yourself in a compliment. For example, "You are doing great, how do you do it, I could not do that." Mentioning yourself tells you that you are not focused on the person's abilities, but that you do not own them. This betrays your self-centeredness and desire to highlight yourself.
Step 4
Compliment only those things that are directly related to the person and are under his control. These can be personal qualities of a person, his achievements, abilities, etc. A compliment should show that you value any of its manifestations in a person. For example, if you like the way a person takes care of their garden or home, say something about themselves (for example, that they are very patient, hardworking, etc.), not about the results of their work.
Step 5
It's important to pay attention to who you are complimenting. A person, for example, may be completely unfamiliar to you. In this case, you can focus your attention on things that are obvious to you, for example, appearance, any accessories, or the work that he does while interacting with you. If you are talking, for example, with a loved one, you can accompany your words with action, for example, hugging him, patting him on the shoulder, etc. In any case, do not expect anything in return from the interlocutor, for example, a reciprocal compliment. In addition, the person is not required to express any gratitude. If you are sincere in your words, the compliment you said should be pleasant to you.
