What does it mean to be independent? The answer lies in the word itself: Independent, that is, a person free from addictions.
An independent person is also a self-sufficient, independent person who is aware of his personal responsibility for his life.
Instructions
Step 1
To be independent, you first have to become responsible. You need to realize your responsibility for your life, for your actions, for your loved ones. Often people are afraid of responsibility and avoid making decisions. Because it is more convenient to shift the decision-making to someone else: parents, husband or wife, society, or the state. The one who makes the decision is responsible.
But when someone makes a decision for you, there is only one thing for you to do: obey other people's rules. This means that you cannot control your life. But the most important thing is that the responsibility for oneself lies with the person himself. Even if someone decides something for you, only you are responsible for yourself. Those. if you think that responsibility can be avoided, then it is self-deception.
For example, you wanted to become an actor (musician, artist), but your parents decided for you that you had better go to medical school. You have learned and become a doctor, you work in an unloved job, and you reproach your parents for “failing” because of them. But it was actually YOUR choice. This is your life, and you had at least 2 options: 1. Do it your way. 2. Give in to your parents, but later get a second profession that you dreamed of. Therefore, stop shifting your responsibility to others. Everything that happens to you is YOUR choice, and you are responsible for it.
Step 2
To be an independent person, you need to become financially independent. Because when you are financially dependent on someone, they can decide for you and manage you. For example, can a housewife be called an independent person? Whether she realizes it or not, she has to please the head of the family, on whom she is financially dependent. Even if her husband is rich, her life can turn into a "golden cage."
You will not be made independent by other people's money - money earned by someone else. Let you have at least a small, but YOUR income.
Step 3
Money alone will not make you free and independent. You can become dependent on money, and on your comfort, social status, work, etc. When a person is afraid of losing something, it is easy for him to control and manipulate. Therefore, to be independent, one has to become detached.
You may not be aware of your addiction. For example, you think that you love very much, you cannot do without a loved one, you are afraid of losing him. But this is not love, but addiction.
You need to realize: the only thing that you will always have is yourself. If you get rid of the fear of losing something, you will be a truly independent person.
Step 4
Being independent also means becoming self-sufficient. A self-sufficient person does not seek support in others, he has support in himself. A self-sufficient and independent person does not depend on someone else's opinion and assessment. This means you need to have the courage not to be "like everyone else." It means being yourself.
Step 5
As you can see, being independent is not easy. But all the same it is necessary - in order to live a full, happy YOUR life.
