People began to bury and commemorate the dead since ancient times. Remembering the dead is one of the fundamental needs of man, and the church rite carries with it a thousand-year human experience of remembering.
It is necessary
- - funeral kutia;
- - candles;
- - a sacrifice at the memorial table (food, wine).
Instructions
Step 1
Pray for the deceased, go to church and put there on the eve (a quadrangular table with a marble or metal table top, on which there are candle compartments) a candle for repose, while you must offer a prayer to the Lord for the one you want to remember.
Step 2
Give alms to the poor and ask them to pray for the deceased. The more people pray for the deceased, the better. Prayers are especially important on the days of remembrance: the third, ninth and fortieth.
Step 3
Go to the service and submit a note with the name of the deceased "about the repose" for the priest to commemorate him. It would also be appropriate to bring a sacrifice to the church on the fortieth day. It can be not only money, but also food and wine.
Step 4
Put the victim on the memorial table (it is located near the eves), for example, kutyu, bread, cereals, pancakes, fruits, cahors. Put a note with the name of the deceased in the brought you, so that you can remember it separately. Remember that you should only bring food that you can eat: for example, during fasting, you should not donate anything meager.
Take a memorial kutya with you to church and consecrate it.
Step 5
Order a memorial service for the deceased - this is very desirable. Also on the fortieth day it is supposed to read a special memorial kathisma.
Step 6
Organize a funeral. Not only relatives, but all acquaintances, friends, distant relatives of the deceased are invited to the commemoration on the fortieth day. The exceptions are the first, fourth and seventh weeks of Great Lent - these weeks are especially strict, and if the commemoration falls on them, then the relatives and friends of the deceased do not invite anyone, but gather at the table in a very narrow circle: only mother and father, wife or spouse, children and grandchildren.
Step 7
Put on the table the food that is allowed by the church canon: if the day is fast, then the memorial meal should also be fast. There must be a consecrated memorial kutia. A large amount of alcohol is inappropriate: getting drunk at a commemoration is an insult to the deceased.
Step 8
Put the appliance on the table in the name of the deceased, leave some of the dishes for him - this is an ancient tradition, it should be followed. Read the "Our Father" just before the meal, taste kutya in turn, starting with the people closest to the deceased - relatives and friends.
Step 9
Remember the right atmosphere of the commemoration: restraint, dignity, and a benevolent attitude are appropriate. They gather at a memorial meal not to eat or to look at each other, but to remember the deceased.
