A provocation is a deliberate act committed against a specific person, with the aim of either prompting him to retaliate, or getting the necessary information from him. A person can face this action literally at every step. For example, communicating with a grumpy neighbor, with scandalous relatives, with a boor in a crowded transport, with a picky boss who is looking for a reason to fire him. Therefore, it is very important to be able to correctly respond to provocations.
Instructions
Step 1
The main rule: remember that the provocateur wants to anger you, make you lose your composure, raise your voice, push you into a scandal. Don't give him that opportunity.
Step 2
For example, a neighbor accuses you of littering in the stairwell or smoking under his door. You are already fed up with this lie, you want to rudely shout at him or even hit him. But think: as a result, he will look like an innocent sufferer, and you will be an unrestrained rude. Remain calm, even if everything is boiling inside, and your hands are itching to teach the liar a lesson. An icy contemptuous look is your best response to a provocation. You can look him up and down with a condescending grin - this is a very effective psychological trick.
Step 3
Or, for example, the boss again unjustly found fault. You can, of course, snap back, say everything that you think about him, because the nerves are not iron. But by doing this you will actually play into his hands. Calmly and reasonably answer his claims. Better yet, with facts and figures: “Are you dissatisfied with my work? But I have such and such achievements. Don't give him a reason to fire you.
Step 4
Someone on a bus or in a subway car has come to you with some stupid claims, and in an unacceptably rude manner. Turn away, ignoring him with all your appearance. If you do not calm down, advise with malicious politeness: “It seems that public transport is bad for you. It would be better to take a taxi, it is healthier. " Your task: to respond to his rude remarks with impeccable courtesy, but so that the boor "sits in a puddle", becoming a common laughing stock.
Step 5
And if, when you came for an interview, they begin to ask obviously provocative questions, know that this is done deliberately to test your resilience in a stressful situation and resourcefulness. Remain calm and answer with restraint and courtesy. Even if the desire is literally bursting with sarcastic clarification: "Why did I talk so incomprehensibly about myself?" Before answering, you can mentally order yourself "Do not succumb to provocations" or count, for example, to five - this calms your nerves well.
