The very first reaction of any person to humiliation or insult is protection. How do you learn to defend yourself in such situations?
In order to be able to correctly respond to insults, you will need: restraint and reasonable action.
No matter where you are faced with insults, you cannot do without restrained behavior. People who do not know how to control themselves can attract additional negative emotions and only provoke more aggressive behavior of the offender. Therefore, you need to learn self-control, then when a difficult situation arises, it will be easier for you to restrain yourself from emotions. It is not surprising that most of the criminal cases are cases of domestic quarrels.
Have you been hurt, offended for no reason, did you feel that you are being treated unfairly? Are you suddenly possessed by a great desire to take revenge on the offender? Stop! It's time to tell yourself that using the same methods (insulting and humiliating in response) will mean that you have shown weakness, succumbed to emotions, and lost your self-esteem. You do not need to use the same methods of struggle, you should suppress your own surging emotions. The most correct option would be to tell the offender in response that you do not intend to continue the conversation in this tone. Once you leave and do your personal business, step back.
If you are insulted in a supermarket, on public transport or elsewhere, you do not need to react harshly to the insults, because, most likely, you will never see these tactless people again. Therefore, you just have to throw out of your head everything that they said to you.
In the event that the abuser is a person who lives next to you, or works with you, it is not easy to quickly forget such a situation. Especially if you have come across him more than once. It is best to calmly ponder and decide what to do in the future:
- forgive the offender in order to improve further relations, provided that the situation has not changed your relationship with him,
- forgive the offender, but further stay away from him, change the attitude towards him.
The choice of your behavior will depend on the degree of intimacy and the level of relationship between the culprit and you.
You must always remember that all insults and humiliations are expressed to you only as an object of emotional relaxation. Therefore, you should not feel guilty.
