It is unlikely that it will be possible to find a person who would not have to deal with rudeness in life. Hearing unpleasant expressions addressed to them or when faced with inappropriate actions, many people get lost, do not know how to behave in such a situation.
Instructions
Step 1
When faced with a boor, people behave differently. Someone immediately tries to put the impudent in place, others pretend that nothing happened, others try to leave faster. In any case, this situation leaves a negative aftertaste in the soul. Is it possible to make a meeting with an unpleasant person for you go almost unnoticed?
Step 2
To get out without loss when colliding with a rude person, try to understand why you are so offended by his behavior. The problem is not in what a particular person is doing, but in your perception of his actions. Remember - it often happens that the situation does not concern you directly, but at the same time you tremble with indignation.
Step 3
Assess why you are so offended by the misbehaving person. The key words here are "misleading." Each person has stereotypes that determine what is right and what is not, what is allowed and what is unacceptable. It is these stereotypes that determine the reactions to the behavior of another person. Get rid of stereotypes, and you will gain a broader view of the world, become calmer and more self-possessed. You will clearly see that much of what shocked you before does not really matter.
Step 4
How to get rid of stereotypes? For starters, forget the word "no". This does not mean permissiveness, it is solely about removing the barriers existing in your mind. You will be surprised to see how many completely empty and useless prohibitions around you, only complicating life, driving it into a certain framework. Imagine that next to you someone laughed loudly, you immediately grimaced - after all, you cannot behave like that in the presence of people. This is an example of such a prohibition. If you hear someone laughing sincerely, you might smile too. The man laughs, he feels good. Just be happy for him and do not rush to condemn.
Step 5
Condemnation is another key word. Learn not to judge and your life will become much easier. Think about how often you make judgments and judgments - this is this, that is. He did it wrong, then not that way … Do not take on the role of a judge, especially considering that nothing changes from this. Someone said something, you mentally called him a boor. But what really changed from this? Absolutely nothing. Learn not to make judgments, at least in those situations that have nothing to do with you, and you will see how much easier your life will become.
Step 6
The concept of pride is very closely related to the principle of non-judgment. Lacking pride, a person will never teach or condemn anyone. Anyone who has managed, at least in the main part, to get rid of pride, usually understands human psychology very well. Another person is like an open book for him, he sees all his "sores". At the same time, seeing the mistakes of another person is not condemnation. He sees them only because he fought with them for a long time, they are well known to him. Therefore, seeing the mental illness of another person, do not condemn him, but sympathize. In a sick person, the disease speaks, it is it that dictated his actions. Understanding what is happening in the minds of the people around you, you simply forget how to be offended.
