From time immemorial, any wedding was preceded by a matchmaking procedure. It was strictly regulated by strict rules and ended with an engagement. Nowadays, few people follow the old traditions. However, in many families, the need for matchmaking is still understood and this ritual is performed, albeit in a somewhat modernized, modified form.
Instructions
Step 1
The essence of matchmaking is that in fact it is a marriage proposal to a girl or a woman from a man or a boy. The groom must not only obtain the consent of the bride, but also get the approval of her parents for the marriage. To obtain permission to marry the chosen one, the young man must send matchmakers to her parents. Their role is usually played by his parents, godparents, and other close relatives. Nowadays, the groom must come to matchmaking himself.
The visit to the parents of the beloved should take place at a predetermined time. The groom should be nicely dressed and bring two bouquets: one for the bride and the other for her mother. The proposal is made during a general conversation, referring to the parents of the chosen one. It is not customary for the bride herself to be present during the conversation, because in its process subtle issues of housing and other material things may be touched upon.
If the bride's parents agree to give her as a wife, then they must invite the groom and his parents, as well as other matchmakers to visit for a specific date. But it may also happen that the girl's parents ask for time to discuss the marriage proposal. The groom should not express dissatisfaction, he has to wait patiently for the invitation.
Step 2
So, if the future marriage is deemed desirable, a second matchmaking visit will take place. During this visit, the girl herself meets the groom with her parents and matchmakers. Now the proposal is made to her. But not the groom, but his father or other matchmaker-relative. The father or other relative of the bride must confirm his consent by placing the bride's right hand in the groom's hand.
After that, the visit ends quickly, it should not be prolonged. If for some reason the groom's parents did not participate in the matchmaking, the bride is invited to visit them. She should give a bouquet to the beloved mother.
Step 3
If it turns out that the parents live far away and cannot come, one must still observe at least a semblance of traditions: send them a photo of the future chosen one or the chosen one, with respect to ask for consent to the marriage.
The final stage of matchmaking is the engagement. She is appointed after the wedding was approved by both families. The parents of the bride and groom must be present at the engagement. The wedding is being discussed there. Future relatives share the costs. Usually the groom or his family buys rings, a dress and shoes for the bride, and the bride's family gives the young family a dowry - furniture, dishes, bed linen, etc.
