Imagine the situation: a person just came home, relaxed, tuned in for a pleasant evening and the implementation of some personal plans. Suddenly the intercom starts ringing loudly and a luscious voice informs that uninvited guests have arrived.
Instructions
Step 1
Build self-confidence. Maybe the problem lies in your attitude to the situation. Think over the line of conduct during the visits of unwanted guests. You must learn to be tactful and direct in expressing desires, feelings, and preferences.
Step 2
Learn to say no. With a sincere desire to refuse, some people feel self-doubt or even fear of being a “black sheep”. Fair refusal in such cases becomes an impossible task. If you want to please everyone around you, be able to listen, help find solutions even to the detriment of your own interests, do not be surprised that you attract obsessive and unwanted guests like a magnet. To get rid of and discourage them, learn to form beliefs and hold on to them and appreciate them. Most likely, you will have to make some changes in your life and change your habits.
Step 3
Use the enemy's methods. Sometimes it brings good results. For example, if the behavior of acquaintances is far from tactful, use deceitful compliments and wishes with emphasis. If you have to deal with cooking dinner, you can confidently pass it on to your guests, but warn them that the hostess is alone in this house.
Step 4
Try to perceive everything that happens with a smile. Behave as if you need help at the very moment your neighbor arrives: you need to remodel the carpet, remove the curtains, peel the potatoes, and it would not hurt to run to the store.
Step 5
Colorfully and in full detail describe any events that you are witnessing, without letting the intrusive guests open their mouths. You can even benefit from this for your development. Analyze and reason in a primitive, childish way out loud. Faced with this behavior several times, unwanted guests will try to leave early, and in the future they will appear less often in your home.
