Nowadays, matchmaking, when the groom or his representatives ask the bride's parents for permission to marry, is not given the same importance as before. Sometimes a guy and a girl already live together, and their parents don't even know each other. But it also happens that young people want to arrange a wedding for themselves according to all the rules and observing all the traditions. In this case, matchmaking will not do. How should you behave during this important event?
Instructions
Step 1
If your parents know practically nothing about the guy, tell them about each other before the red carpet meeting. Mother and father - about how good he is and how much he loves you, the guy - about their parents, what they love and what should be abstained from. This story will mentally prepare both parties for acquaintance. In addition, if they learn more about each other, they will quickly find topics for communication. If there is a need for this, advise the guy how best to dress in order to make a good impression, what flowers to give to mom, and what brandy to give to his father.
Step 2
Matchmaking is usually carried out at home, with the girl's parents, but if you want, you can simply invite them for lunch or dinner at a good restaurant. The shape of your dress depends on where the meeting takes place. A relaxed suit suits you for a family meeting, while a restaurant is supposed to wear an elegant two-piece suit. In any case, refrain from both too simple everyday outfits, and from formal, not typical for you clothes. In the first case, you may seem like an unenviable party, in the second, you will feel out of place.
Step 3
After meeting with your bride and her parents, give them the gifts you brought (for women - flowers, champagne or sweets, for a man - good cognac). The girl should introduce you to her parents, and her parents - to you.
Step 4
Start the conversation with a neutral topic, but don't drag it out for too long. Translate the conversation about love and the purpose of your coming. In order not to get nervous and not get lost at the decisive moment, try to think over and rehearse your speech in advance. Tell us about your feelings for the girl and how you will treat your wife, what you do, how you think to support your family, etc. Try to speak calmly and judiciously. Remember that in front of you are the most dear people for your girlfriend who wish her happiness.
Step 5
Your parents, godparents, relatives or friends can also participate in the matchmaking ceremony. In this case, you yourself speak about your feelings and intentions, and your "support group" should try to present you to the girl's parents in the most attractive way.
Step 6
If the girl's parents have nothing against the existing candidacy and this wedding, then the father, as a rule, puts his daughter's right hand into the hand of the future son-in-law. After that, give your parents symbolic gifts as a sign of respect, and give your bride a ring that she will have to wear on her left finger before the wedding. At this moment, in many families, the girl's parents give something to their future relatives.
Step 7
After observing these formalities, both parties usually sit down at the table. During a leisurely feast, in a relaxed atmosphere, the most important moments of the future wedding are discussed. For example, the venue of the celebration, how many guests are expected, the composition of the menu, the motorcade, shooting, how financial expenses will be distributed, where the newlyweds will live, etc.
Step 8
In the event that the groom's parents are not present at the matchmaking, the girl should also visit them. The groom introduces her to his parents, she gives a bouquet of flowers to her future mother-in-law. If your parents live far away and you are unable to visit them, be sure to send them your photos and ask for permission to marry.
