They say that a word can kill. Especially if it sounded from the lips of a loved one or friend. Probably the most natural reaction is to reciprocate, say something sharp to the offender and bring him to tears. However, the scandal is hardly a way out of the situation. We need to look for other ways.
Instructions
Step 1
Defense is a normal human reaction. You have been insulted, which means they have made a psychological attack on you. Moreover, the dearer the offender, the more painful the blow. Why is this happening? Because a person who knows all your ins and outs is well aware of the weakest points:
- you are unhappy with your figure and he knows about it; in a fit of anger, he declares something like "watch your weight", it is clear that in a rude manner;
- or you like to stay at home, housekeeping, cleaning floors, frying pies and, accordingly, you get a “homemade chicken”. In the worst case, "homemade chicken, which needs to monitor its weight."
Step 2
From this we can conclude that no one should be allowed too close to you - it will not hurt. But this is a wrong conclusion. Rather, you need to think about what the person really wanted to tell you and why you reacted this way. By understanding what is behind the insults, you will learn how to respond to them.
Step 3
If you were called, then first of all they wanted to draw your attention to some problem. Like, hey you, hear me! Perhaps you are not attentive enough - your abuser has problems at work, a midlife crisis, a stomach ache? Your answer: find out as correctly as possible what happened.
Step 4
If the insult touched you to the core, then you believe that the offender told the truth or was close to the truth. Returning to the chicken example: you yourself feel fat, unkempt, and uninteresting to anyone. What to do? Change!
Step 5
If you reacted violently to harmless words or are generally inclined to "free interpretation", then you lack love and tenderness. Now you are already attracting attention to yourself with inappropriate behavior and get, if not participation, then at least a scandal, which is still better than nothing. The way out is to build relationships with this person in a new way, and if it doesn't work out, to part. You cannot build a happy life on insults.
Step 6
Conclusion: name-calling is just a consequence. Look for the cause and work with it. If the words you hear seem offensive only to you, most likely, there is a crisis in your relationship. And remember, nothing personal - everyone just solves their own problems!
