Sometimes it happens that a person feels “out of place”, it seems to him that he is not acting as he should. This feeling arises due to a misunderstanding of one's social role or non-acceptance of it.
Instructions
Step 1
A person lives in a society and from the very birth he is "assigned" certain social statuses, for example, a son or daughter. As a person grows up, such statuses become more and more: a student of a school, a student, an employee of an enterprise or an employee, a husband or wife, a parent. Some of these statuses become a thing of the past with social and personal development, others remain with a person for many years.
Step 2
But if social status is the position that a particular person occupies in society, then the social role is a certain set of actions that a person should take if he occupies one or another social status. So, for example, a mother is a social status. Its social role is to take care of the development and health of its children, to provide their education, upbringing, to instill certain cultural and social skills, etc.
Step 3
The social role is formed, as a rule, from the ideas accepted in a particular society about how a person who occupies a certain social status should behave. But often a person's ideas about how he needs to behave in a particular social status differ from those accepted in society. And then various kinds of social conflicts arise, which can be divided into three large groups.
Step 4
Inter-role conflicts. They occur when the requirements of one social role conflict with each other. So, the role of a parent implies an affectionate and lovingly caring attitude towards their children. At the same time, this role requires the manifestation of rigor and exactingness in the upbringing process. And sometimes it is not easy to find a reasonable compromise between strictness and love.
Step 5
Inter-role conflicts. They arise when the requirements of one role conflict with the requirements of the role of another. So, the role of a wife and mistress of the house implies an attentive attitude towards the husband and children, all kinds of manifestations of caring for them, the desire to establish life and maintain order in the house. And the role of a successful professional sometimes requires sacrificing your personal time, interests and personal life for the sake of the interests of the business. And if a woman tries to fully combine these two social roles, this can lead to nervous strain and even illness.
Step 6
Personality-role conflicts. This type of conflict arises when the requirements for a particular social role contradict the characteristics of a particular person, his aspirations and values. So, to be a good specialist, there is not enough solid knowledge and extensive professional skills. To move up the career ladder, you need the ability to communicate effectively, and stress resistance, and certain volitional qualities. If a person is not sufficiently developed, it will be extremely difficult for him to achieve success in this social role.
Step 7
Unfortunately, it is hardly possible to completely resolve social conflicts for each individual person. But you can try not to bring them to the "critical point". To do this, you should try to do the following.
Step 8
Get rid of perfectionism, i.e. striving to fulfill each of their social roles in the most brilliant and best possible way. Remember that it is impossible to become too good for everyone. It will be enough to realize that the main functions of a social role are performed, as well as the recognition of this fact by the closest and most significant people.
Step 9
Prioritize correctly. Determine for yourself which of the social statuses at the moment is the most significant for you at the moment. On this basis, more attention is paid to the corresponding social role, it is performed more carefully.
Step 10
Self-improvement. If the achievement and retention of any social status is extremely important for you, and the existing personal qualities do not allow you to achieve and establish yourself in it, it remains only to identify your own shortcomings and patiently and consistently work to eliminate them.
