Now it is "not fashionable" to divide household responsibilities into male and female. Many people believe that housework should be equally divided between husband and wife, and there is nothing wrong for a man to wash the dishes or do the cleaning. But not everyone is of this opinion. Some people are still convinced that it is still worth distinguishing between male and female jobs.
Male and female energies
If you think about it, the division of responsibilities between men and women has always existed. Many are accustomed to explaining this by the fact that "male" work requires greater muscular effort, while "female" work is easier. But it's not always the case. All the more so now, when a man rarely has to do really hard physical labor. It turns out that all his duties are reduced to "bringing a mammoth into the house", ie. make money for yourself and your family.
But a woman is now quite capable of providing for herself and her children. Why not really stop thinking of housework as “female”?
The fact is that a man and a woman on earth have completely different tasks, which are determined not so much by social conventions as by the different quality of energy that representatives of both sexes are naturally endowed with. E. Veselnitskaya talks about this in her book "Woman in the Man's World".
She notes that the specificity of male energy is the pursuit of a specific goal. Veselnitskaya calls this property “folding to a point”. The female energy essence is a space that has no boundaries or direction.
In practice, this means that in order to fulfill common goals and objectives (for example, in a family), a man and a woman perform sequentially different actions in accordance with their nature. It happens as follows:
- the man sets the direction;
- a woman provides space;
- the man organizes the space;
- the woman fills it in;
- the man puts a full stop;
- the woman masters the level.
Male and female roles in family life
Based on these basic functions, one can logically trace how relationships are built in a harmonious family. The “direction” given by a man is the first step towards rapprochement. He cares for a woman, shows her attentions, and achieves her favor.
A woman, if she wants it, responds to his attention with favor, shows mutual interest, accepts his signs of attention - "provides space."
The man begins to organize the space: he determines the form of their further coexistence (marriage, one-time meetings), builds a house or finds a place to live together.
The woman fills the space: she creates comfort, determines what exactly should be in the house, how it is necessary to organize a joint life, etc.
The man puts a point: the level of construction is completed, you can move on to the next. For example, the birth of children or career growth.
A woman “masters” this position, ie, for example, takes her social status for granted and waits for the next male step. Thus, the relationship in a couple develops in a spiral, each time reaching a new level as a result of the joint efforts of both spouses. This concerns, by the way, not only family relations, but also partnerships, friendships, and other kinds of harmonious relations, where the interaction of representatives of opposite sexes takes place.
You may ask: what does cleaning, cooking and washing have to do with it? And what is this if not "filling the space"? After all, these are actions that allow you to maintain comfort and order in the house, which means that they can rightfully be considered a woman's business.