A very important question that a woman must decide before marriage is to take her husband's surname or not. And if in the USSR, in most cases, this was out of the question, now a woman can leave her maiden name if she wishes. But is it worth it?
As a rule, brides decide what is worth. There are many reasons to take your husband's surname. The most common is pressure from older relatives and the categorical: "This is accepted!" The bride is told that her mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother took her husband's surname, so there is no need to break the tradition. What will people say if husband and wife have different surnames? In addition, if the child is given the father's surname, then his own mother will turn out to be a "stranger" to him. Such conversations, which boil down to the fact that marriage is concluded for the sake of a stamp in a passport and a change of surname, have a great influence on women and sometimes even force them to change their beautiful surname to a very dissonant one. Another, no less common reason, lies in fear. The bride is afraid of offending her future husband. In this case, a new surname is a sign of belonging to a husband, proof that a man and a woman in marriage have become one. There are brides who, for whatever reason, dream of changing their surname. Some of them were teased with her in childhood, some she was simply unpleasant. Some people want to have a more euphonious or even noble surname, which is very fashionable in our time. In such cases, the woman, at least, does not lose anything, and maybe she gains something desired or even fulfills her dream. Sometimes the bride takes her husband's surname, because she believes that this will help her change her character and even her destiny. For her, after the wedding, a new life begins, and the old one, along with all the failures and problems, remains in girlhood. A new surname, documents, marital status, signature - all this gives some women hope for a happier life. If a woman marries a foreigner and plans to move to another country for permanent residence after that, she can take her husband's surname It is important to remember that the happiness of a family rarely depends on the surnames of a husband and wife, and a common surname does not save either from divorce or from betrayal. Therefore, each bride makes her choice, and the main thing is that it turns out to be the right one for her future family.
