Sometimes you find yourself in a situation where you want to talk, but you don't know what. There are people who always know how to find the right words. However, this skill very rarely turns out to be innate, more often it needs to be developed in oneself. There are several of the most effective ways.
Instructions
Step 1
If you want to start a conversation with a girl you like, the easiest place to start is with a template. There are many tutorials on the so-called pickup (the ability to start a relationship with a girl), which offer various phrases with which to start communication. Basically, these are anecdotes, aphorisms of great philosophers and writers. They provide an opportunity not only to start a conversation, but also give you courage. For example, the Elvis pattern starts with a young man approaching a girl, always smiling, and saying, “Hi, did you know that Elvis Presley dyed his hair?” There is a pause, and the guy continues: "In fact, he was blond."
Step 2
Simple general phrases are encouraging for both girls and young people, and the conversation develops on its own. In the future, try to maintain a line of conversation that appeals to the girl, find in memory all the knowledge on this topic and try not to get into a dead end in the conversation.
Step 3
When a girl meets a guy, there is often little need to do anything. It is usually the man's prerogative to develop the conversation. But it so happens that a young man is so delighted with female beauty that he is confused and cannot take the initiative into his own hands. Then you have to act on your own.
Step 4
Initially - show curiosity. Men often claim that they do not like this feminine quality, in fact, in their eyes you become sweeter and more feminine, the main thing is not to delve too deeply into personal moments at once. By finding out as much as possible about his hobbies, you will be able to develop the conversation almost indefinitely.
Step 5
Moving from a one-sided conversation, when you just listened and asked questions, to a discussion of interests, try not to express unambiguous opinions. You do not know the person very well yet, and the categorical “I don’t like this” can push him away. After all, perhaps this is the only thing that significantly differs your views.
Step 6
Try to follow the following rules for any type of communication. Do not discuss sensitive or controversial issues until you have even remotely established the other person's opinion. After all, you can seriously hurt him if, for example, he is a believer, and you are an atheist. Show genuine interest, it always encourages the other person to talk. A casual conversation about meaningless things (but preferably not as trivial as the weather) is the best way to make an acquaintance.
