A confessor is a priest who will become for you in the church the performer of the sacrament of repentance. In addition, the duties of a confessor include the development and education of his ward child. That is why the choice of your spiritual father must be approached with special care.
The ministers of the church advise not to look for your spiritual father, but simply to pray - the Lord himself will direct you to the priest who is necessary for you.
However, you should not rely only on God, you also need to make certain efforts on your own in search of “your” confessor. First, go to the service in the temple. Look closely at the priests who are preaching. Pay attention to their manner of communication, to the strength of their energetic influence, to the good that they radiate. You need to choose one next to which you will feel comfortable and cozy.
Be sure to try to get an individual sacrament with a clergyman you like. For example, for confession. Here you can assess the degree of his participation in the parishioner, his interest in you, as a child of God. Again, this is how you can figure out whether you personally feel comfortable with this person as your spiritual father.
When choosing a confessor, be guided by inner feelings. It is not at all necessary that the priest who canonically corresponds to the image of the Holy Father will become an ideal spiritual father for you - a long beard, the presence of a cross on his chest, frequent flaunting of his special attitude to the church. An excellent spiritual father can be a simple, modest clergyman who is no stranger to ordinary normal words, does not boast of his "special" position and can give you simple, but at the same time very wise advice.